Friday, January 13, 2012


I think today we have a very narrow view on what gossip is. An image comes to my mind of two teenage girls laughing with each other over another girl's embarrassing secrets. We think, I'm not 14, I'm not a freshman in high school, and every story I tell is just for laughs.

Proverbs says, "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends."

Now, some things must be told, a friend considering suicide for instance. But I believe that most of the gossip that is spread is done with good intentions. Gossip can be repeating someone's past to "warn" them about talking with them.

In my experience, when confronted about gossip, people say, "but it's true!" In my experience, most gossip is true.

It can be asking about somebody else's situation to "pray for them." Sometimes though we end up spending more time talking about the problem than on our knees in prayer about it.

Proverbs has boatloads to say about about gossip. That makes me think it's not as rare as it seems. 

A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.

In fact, Jesus said, "But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken."

I want to take that seriously and not just shrug it off.


  1. My measuring stick for how far is too far: I try to judge whether or not I'd be comfortable talking about something with the person in subject is in the room. If I'm not, then I probably shouldn't say it.

    For example, I talk about you and Tori all the time. But I never say anything that I couldn't see myself telling either of you about.

  2. Good response Emily. I agree.

    I always wonder what the pay-off is for engaging in gossip. If there wasn't a pay-off why would anyone participate? Is it jealousy?...Envy?...Low self esteem? Spite?...Anger?

    Another question I wonder would be what is the opposite of gossip or rather what positive act could replace it? If our motives are in order off-times we need to go to the person directly to help that person.

    My wife would never diss me to others but often she will call me a spade to help me see some personal fault which I am blind to. Iron should sharpen iron and good relationships accomplish just that at times. Gossip, on the other hand dulls relationships.

    Thanks Peter for stirring the tanks.


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